One Survivor's Story

Speaking out in support of Compassionate Care for Rape Victims

 

Interview on 9/22/07 with Linda, a rape survivor

 

PP: Tell me what you thought of how Mark Gundrum acted when you testified.

[during the public hearing in the Assembly Judiciary Committee on September 6, 2007]

 

Linda: I was very unsettled, upset, when I noticed during my testimony that Representative Gundrum did not listen to me. He was turned next to him talking to Representative Kramer the entire time.

 

PP: How did he act when you talked to him in the hallway afterwards?

 

Linda: As though he were irritated and really couldn’t be bothered.

 

PP: What were you trying to tell him, when you were in the hallway, when you were in the hearing? What were you trying to convey to him?

 

Linda: How important it is to understand the word compassion for rape victims and the Compassionate Care for Rape Victims Bill. To look into his heart, and try to understand something that he could never possibly go through in his life.  It didn't seem as though he understood the word compassion in compassionate care.

 

PP: If you were to see him right now, what would you say to him?

 

Linda: What part do you not understand in the word compassion?

 

PP: How long have you been testifying about this?

 

Linda: Two years. Two years, and every hearing, every day that goes by, I feel assaulted again because that's what it is when no one cares. That someone chooses to listen to a handful of others who it has not ever happened to, but it could happen to.  That part they don't see. It could be them. It could be a sister, a mother, a daughter. Representative Gundrum has four daughters, and I just don’t understand why he can’t see beyond his own nest.

 

PP: How does it make you feel that he passed an amendment that makes the bill completely ineffective?

 

Linda: Violated. Violated. It's all this work that we've done, not for ourselves, but to help others for when it happens to them.  He just dismisses it like it's a child falling on the playground and bruising their knee. Oh their moms can take them to the drugstore, to the pharmacy.  But when it happens… Until a compassionate person puts out their hand to you, I just can't describe quite how you feel. It's numb, there's a numbness in your brain. There’s pain. There's fear. You can't think straight. You just want to run and hide and cry and never come out of that hiding place.  I wish that I had had the time that I could've talked more; maybe I could've gotten him to understand that we waited and waited all day long. We were given a couple of minutes, and he couldn't even pay attention when all I took was a couple of minutes of his time.

 

PP: You said you feel numb. Would you really be able to just go to a pharmacy and get [emergency contraception] for yourself if you may not even know that it exists?

 

Linda: No. When it happened to me, if someone had not stopped and picked me up on the side of the road and taken me to the emergency room, I would have wandered out in the woods all night until someone did find me. Someone had to rescue me and take me to the emergency room and to the police station.  How could I have gone to a pharmacy even if it had been available [over the counter] then? I couldn't have. I don’t think I'm any different, any weaker than any other rape victim. It has nothing to do with strength or weakness of the victim. It's not about the act; it's not about the victim. It’s about the perpetrator of the crime.

 

PP: What do you have to say to other members of the Assembly? Should they vote on the bill in its original form? What do you ask of them to help protect women in Wisconsin?

 

Linda: They need to pass the bill in its original form. It's not asking that much. Whether or not it passes should not depend on a handful of people whose beliefs are misguided and wrong.  It's about medical fact.  It's not about someone's misguided beliefs. I hope they do pass it as written because that's the only effective way to help the rape victims in the state of Wisconsin, no matter where they live or how old they are. That's the only way.

 

PP: Is there any message that you have for other activists? For the other women like you that have been out there, testifying? Do you think it’s time to give up or do you have to keep trying?

 

Linda: Keep fighting. Shed your tears, dry them up and keep fighting until we get what we need.

 

PP: Is there anything else you want to say?

 

Linda: I thank God every day for Planned Parenthood and the work that they do for all of us.

 

 

 

 

on audio recording